Oct 28 2008
What is Love?
It is not that easy to define what love really means. Sometimes I, cannot understand it but I can feel it. People sometimes get confused by it, yet they also felt it. This is something we give, a powerful force that even our brains cannot maneuver, when it strikes you’ll never get away with it.
Love is taking your time and not hurrying to find someone to love you. You must first love yourself. There are many forms of love and they way you feel for a family member is different then when you meet that someone, but it all has to be UNCONDITIONALLY. It is feeling special, being a better person with that person rather than without that person. It is being truthful with yourself and what you want out of life. it is about sacrifices being made. Putting someone’s needs before your own needs. Going the extra mile for someone, caring, spending time together. You don’t have to be joined at the hip to know that you are loved-you just know. That person is so hard to be upset at and when you are upset, You can argue at still glance at them and think WOW or you both laugh or smirk and it’s over no hard feelings. It is just being in the same room together that make’s you melt. It is about knowing the differences and accepting them. In your eye’s that person is great to you. It is the best gift to receive from another human being. Take your time. I used to think the same thing and wondered just like you. There are good guys out there, but for the time being - Date, Date, Date, and find what YOU are looking for. When you least expect it, it will happen for you. but remember, it is a strong feeling that your gut will show you and only you will know how you feel. this is LOVE!!!!!
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What are the love types?
- Love type one: Eros love - This is what they are talking about when you read about the love chemical. It has a huge effect on this stage of love. This is the love Jack and Rose had for each other in Titanic. You feel it in the beginning of a relationship. You are completely obsessed with the other person. Passion and fire is rampant. You rarely think of other things. You tell people you are in love. They can do no wrong in your eyes. It is exciting. You feel completely desired, wanted, and worthwhile. This love has an expiration date. It wears off. You start to see their flaws. It gets old. I’ve heard this can last up to about three years. Some people let the “love” go, saying it has become boring and they don’t feel the same way. Often this is for the best, but sometimes they let go because of immaturity and look for the next best thing, the next high. This first stage of love has to happen to get to the next one. I’m sort of glad it expires, because you wouldn’t be very productive or balanced if you were completely obsessed with a person forever.
- Love type two: Agape love (agape is an old Greek word for “love feast” and I’ve often heard it adopted in this culture to describe this second type of love) - If you are lucky, you go into this second stage. This is commitment love. It is characterized by unconditional positive regard, patience, and self-sacrifice. There are ups and downs, but you stick with it because you realize that real love isn’t a feeling, it’s actions, loyalty, and grace. This takes maturity and you generally have to have developed a real friendship with the person that will whether the ebb and flow of emotions. Sometimes the fire re-surfaces on special occasions, but it’s not as all-consuming or long-lasting and brainless as eros was. This is what the 80 years old celebrating their 60th anniversary have. This love protects the others heart and shows love with actions even when they don’t FEEL love for the other. Obviously, it seems like this is rare, and it is pretty rare. It requires unselfishness and for people to lay down their pride from time to time. That also takes intelligence. But it happens. They may not always be perfect to each other, but by and large, they go the distance because the majority of the time spent together is this kind of eternal love. You just have to realize that in real life, it’s not the fantasy people represent it to be. It’s work, it’s family. It’s not everlasting eros. There is more of a choice, and I think this means more. If it’s easy to love and treat you right, you should expect it. If it’s a constant effort that reaps sweet rewards, it means a lot.
Love is patient, Love is kind,
It does not envy, it does not boast,
It is not proud, It is not rude,
It is not self-seeking,
It is not easily angered,
It keeps no record of wrongs.
Love does not delight in evil,
but rejoices with the truth.
Love always protects, always trusts,
always hopes, always perseveres.
Love bears all things, believes all things,
hopes all things, endures all things.
L o v e N e v e r F a i l s.
